No, seriously. I was reading the guidebook on Thailand I got from the library, and it said, in the little intro to the Thai language, that Porn is Blessing. I cheered out loud.
Speaking of porn, it's strange. I'm in my early thirties now, and I can really notice a difference in my sex drive as I am "beginning to age." I'm not as horny as I used to be. I used to get really distracting hard-ons all the time if I didn't jerk off twice a day. Now I jack off once a day or so... out of pleasure more than neccesity. Granted, I'm glad that it's fun, but it was, on a certain carnal level, more fun when I had that driving urge from my body that I had to be jerking off all the time. Or getting laid.
As I mentioned a week or so ago, I haven't had sex since mid-March. And I'm rather embarrassed to admit that I don't really mind - at least not on a physical level. On an emotional level, I'm kind of depressed that I don't miss it, but at the same time, I don't. I haven't really met any guys lately who I've been especially attracted to (well, there was Williams Sonoma boy the other day... Part of my lack of sexual desire may have to do with the fact that I've been overeating and underexercising, leading to a bit more of a tummy than I ought to have.
But that doesn't really explain all of it. I think that I have just gone into one of those phases where I'm not interested in casual sex. I seem to go in cycles about casual sex. Sometimes I'm all about it, and sometimes I just have no interest. Obviously, right now is one of those whatever times in that department. Although I occasionally see a guy who I think is hot - like Williams Sonoma boy or the really cute (tall!) cop who was in the lobby of the hotel last night for some reason which I believe relates to today's Puerto Rican parade. Mmm, I wanted to see his nightstick!
Maybe if I'm lucky, he'll be at the hotel again today. Probably he'll have more important things to deal with - like drunk Puerto Ricans. Bliss!
Posted by Jon at June 8, 2003 10:45 AM | TrackBackSex drive eventually calms down, our hormonal brew's ingredients change after we pass out of our twenties. I'm older than you and still love sex passionately even if I don't find myself with a daily morning stiffy.
I've always found that my sexual appetite does change with how much I'm exercise and whether or not I'm overeating. Somewhere I read what passed for a scientific explanation but have fogotten the details.
My own interest in sex with strangers dropped consierably when I was in my mid-20s. I think I became too romantic. But the only real issue is how happy you are with the strength and quality of your own sexuality. I became a very relationship oriented guy. I have a good friend in his late 40s who still successfully lives the life of a happy young single gay man.
Posted by: Richard Evans Lee at June 8, 2003 11:22 AM