In February, I wrote in my (other) blog about how the members of my "core" group of friends had all went and got themselves boyfriends. I tried to provide you with a hyperlink to this, but my blogger site is so fucked up that I couldn't even make that happen.
Anyhow, one of these guys has totally disappeared from my world. One moved in with his boyfriend a couple weeks ago. Another told me that he's going to move in with his boyfriend, and they're going to have a commitment ceremony. And today, on the phone, the last one told me that he, too, is moving in with his boyfriend!
What have I done to deserve this? All my best friends have gone from single to not. Bleah!
Another friend of mine, a relatively newer friend, has accused me of not working hard enough to find a boyfriend of my own. I guess part of the problem with this is that the sum total of the previous advice I have been given is that you can't go out looking for a boyfriend. "They sneak up on you when you're least expecting it." (Sort of like a mosquito?) So for him to start telling me that I have to pursue guys more actively was sort of funny advice. I'm not 100% sure what to do with it. I mean, there's a great part of me that would rather not be single. But there's so much going on in my life that doesn't seem conducive to finding a boyfriend in the first place. I mean, I work evenings and weekends. And, I have to confess, I'm a bit of a restaurant snob, and I have this vision of an ideal husband who is a bit of a restaurant snob as well. And the gay men I've been able to meet don't seem to feel the same way I do about that. And I know I'm blowing it out of proportion, but aren't I allowed to make it an issue if I want to? It's not like it's a key factor, but it's a part of the overall package. Although it's possible that I've envisioned myself this dream-world boyfriend who can't possibly exist, just so I don't have to set myself up for rejection again and again if I set my standards lower?
In other news, I was watching VH1 have a special on the 80's this afternoon before I went to work. It was riveting! I could hardly turn it off to leave the apartment on time for work! They had snippets from Nine to Five and Xanadu. Oh... it was fabulous, I tell you. Too bad I had to turn it off and go to work. I could have watched that all day long!
Posted by Jon at April 13, 2003 12:59 AM